LOVE

FINDING LOVE AGAIN

Love is not just about flowers and chocolates… sometimes its about the simplest of things in life…

They were old friends from the same hometown, and she was his best friend’s sister. They knew each other for decades.

Even after their spouses had passed on too soon, they were too wrapped up caring for their children to consider how they are living their own lives. When Sunyoung’s ajumma friends suggested many times for her to consider Choi appa, she was never keen on the idea…

How did things start to change from being merely friendly neighbours whom she always shared soups or dishes with?

SOMEONE WHO LISTENED AND GAVE COMFORT …

Choi appa and Sunyoung both loved their children more than themselves, and always placed their needs before their own.

They hid their own fears and feelings to spare their children from worry.
As single parents, no one else can quite understand what they were going through, but they could show their vulnerable sides to each other.

SOMEONE WHO OFFERED HELP IN TIMES OF NEED …

When Choi appa was hospitalized, the ajummas all pitched in and made sure he ate well, but Sunyoung went beyond just delivering food. But she never did it out of wanting anything in return. She needed a large sum of money to settle the loan her mum-in-law took on her house but she was too proud to ask for him for help.

He learnt about it and convinced her to accept his help, and told her that it was alright to be indebted to others. He also made it comfortable for her when he pointed out that he was grateful to her for asking him to move to Seoul after his wife died, where kind neighbours also saved his life.

SOME BEST FRIENDS WHO GAVE GOOD ADVICE…

They never considered remarrying because they were afraid of hurting their children…

Even though they seemed resistant to what their friends told them, their viewpoints slowly started to change…

SO WHAT IS A GUY TO DO…

When he did not talk much….how to say funny things like Kim appa…. or act cute…

SOMEONE TO BABYSIT…

If it wasn’t for Jinjoo needing an emergency babysitter, perhaps their relationship would just have been stuck, unable to move anywhere. On the fateful night when the Kims and Sungs forgot they had to help Sunyoung watch Jinjoo and all left to eat out, Jinjoo made an unlikely friend with the bear-like Mr Choi.

And so, because Jinjoo really took to her new friend, Choi appa and Sunyoung had alot more opportunity to see each other when she dropped Jinjoo off before going to work at her part-time job. Choi appa respected her wishes to work, and never offered to give her more money so that she would not need to. He even talked to Sunwoo, to seek his understanding for his mother’s decision.

SOMEONE TO DO NICE THINGS FOR AND DEPEND ON…

Don’t pass up any opportunity to show concern…

Get her medicine if she fell sick… Walk her home when she was afraid of snatch-thieves…

And because love should always be a two-way street…Sunyoung reciprocated by putting in extra effort to make food that he was craving for.

After their children gave them the encouragement and blessings to take the next step, there was no flowers, fancy words or bended knee…

Just a casual

“…Sunyoung ah, since its cold already, should we just live together already?”

during the first snow, was enough to bring a sweet smile to her face.

By getting together, their children benefited from their union too… Sunwoo and Jinjoo gained a dad, Taek gained a mom, and their family and home expanded and was always filled with warmth and laughter. Choi appa gained a son who liked sports and can play baseball with, and Jinjoo got to be guided by a supportive father figure in her life.

This love, is as beautiful as any hot, passionate young love, perhaps even more so, because they both understood that it was not easy to come by.

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